7 Tips to Choosing Your Bridesmaids

These women will be your support group, you’re A Team and wedding day front line!

Think About the Amount

First think about how many guests you’re expecting to have and how formal your event will be. A good rule of thumb is to have one groomsman and one corresponding bridesmaid for every 50 guests, but it’s not a math formula. All it means is that a larger wedding party fits in better at a large and formal wedding. If you are planning a small and intimate gathering, you should opt for a smaller bridal party.

More is Not Always Merrier

The more bridesmaids you have, the greater potential for complications. You will need to have more people to agree on a dress, shower date and coordination of all the other joys of bridal party-dom.

Blood is Thicker Than Water

If you’re close to your sister and future sister-in-law, the thought of not including them in your wedding party has probably never even occurred to you. If it did, it’s usually worth including family just to avoid unnecessary conflict. Think of it as having more bargaining power when you’re battling with your families over the guest list.


Try Not to Make Hasty Assumptions

Don’t write off some friends simply because you think they don’t have enough money to afford that Vera Wang bridesmaid dress you have your eye on. If you want to ask a friend you know is having financial difficulties, you can always tell her that you would love for her to be a bridesmaid, but understand the financial side. If she has to decline, promise to find something else for her to do so she is involved with the wedding.

A Bridesmaid Does Not Have to be a Woman

If your best friend is a guy, there is no reason why he can’t be in your wedding party. Today, many couples are including members of the opposite sex to stand by them. In these cases, a man of the bride’s side is simply called an attendant or brides man, while a woman on the groom’s side can be called a grooms woman.

You Can Have Two Maids of Honor

There is no rule that says you can’t. If there are two women you feel closest to, of course you want them both by your side on your wedding day. Just be aware that they may squabble over honor attendant duties: who gets to hold the ring, the bouquet, stand right next to you, sign the license and so on. Just be specific when you tell them both what you want them to do.


It’s OK to Have Uneven Numbers of Bridesmaids and Groomsmen

No law of symmetry here when it comes to wedding parties. Don’t put yourself under the added pressure to fill positions, should they be empty. Once you decide about your bridesmaids, you should get the word out. There might be nothing worse than a friend who assumes she is going to be a bridesmaid when she is not. Don’t be afraid of hurting someone’s feelings…..any true friend will understand whatever decision you ultimately make.

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